Way back in 2006, but I still want to be friends. Don't you?
Hi guys, as many of you have told me via comments, emails, and personal conversations, the situation with comments regarding Toyland has gotten out of hand. A handful of people, on both sides of the debate, have made inappropriate and hostile comments. Some comments have even targeted this blog, and me personally (one of which appeared on Yelp). My personal dating life is never an appropriate topic for conversation here, and it certainly does not belong on Yelp!. I will say that I'm probably the only person I know who has been falsely accused of dating someone and had it show up on Yelp! So I can now cross that off my list thanks to the help of someone I've never met.
But more directly to my point, there were originally three partners involved in the Toyland venture. None of those three people are involved in the conversation that has taken place here. From everything I've heard, all three wish to settle their differences as amicably as possible and move on with their lives. When we squabble here (or troll, as some of us have done) it not only muddies the waters (they are still settling their affairs) it also prolongs what has been a painful process for them all. So I am once more asking people to please be respectful of those three people who were directly involved in this venture and let them have some peace. Please refrain, for the time being, from leaving any comments about Toyland. I don't want a hostile atmosphere on Frozen Tropics, and some of the comments have made it feel that was to many readers. So, for the time being, I am calling for quiet time. I don't want to see any comments pro, or anti, Toyland. I just don't want to talk about it here because I want to give those three time for the dust to settle. If I do see any comments in that vein, I'll delete them. We are not talking about this here because we are only causing pain right now.
To those who have (intentionally, or unintentionally) stirred things up, trolled, or escalated, the tension:
please step back and take a breath. If that doesn't work, please go back to your respective corners, sit there, think about what you've done, and don't come out until you can behave like nice civilized adults again. I think we'll all be the better for it. Why twist the knife? I personally feel that to do so is profoundly disrespectful to all three original partners. Let's let their wounds heal instead.
Bottom line: If you like the "new" Toyland, go there. If you don't like the "fake" Toyland (I'm trying to echo the language of the commenters here), don't go there. If enough people don't go to Toyland it will fail. If enough people do go to Toyland it will succeed. But don't abuse my blog for selfish and petty reasons. When you do that, it not only creates a hostile environment, but it is also annoying, and profoundly BORING for other readers.
Be nice guys. You only get one life. Why waste it fighting on some blog? Can't
we just be friends?